Married a good man, a divorced parent at my son’s school, when my son was eleven. Once my degree was done I basically severed all ties with everyone I knew before I had the baby and started from scratch.īut I finished my degree, we got by, I worked at home in the dot com boom.

I was on my last subject of my degree and my institution was completely inflexible about it, so I had to do an equivalent subject at another institution instead. So we started out with very few social supports. So that intensified the blame and killed most of my remaining friendships – I couldn’t get anyone to be with me when I had the baby. Most of the time, we kept the break-up civil, and we both maintained a dignified silence about blame to outsiders, but people made up their own minds anyway.Īnyway, I had the baby, and my ex ended his life (not really because of me – he was facing a completely separate, and far bigger life crisis by then – although he did throw one barb my way in a note).

The truth is we were both at fault and he was a pretty terrible partner. But because I was visibly pregnant, I was the one whose fling was visible. I had recently broken an engagement and both my ex and I had flings afterward. I also was opposed to termination for myself, although I still supported it. I kept the baby because I had wanted a child, although not necessarily under those circumstances also, I had a diagnosis of compromised fertility so it wasn’t a sure bet I’d get pregnant again down the track. “I had a child from an impetuous ‘One Night Stand,’ with a stranger when I was 21. Not Sure How She Survived All Of Those Life Obstacles Some men stepped up to the plate and handled the situation, while others tried to escape into oblivion. It's always better to be on the safe side, but sadly some people aren't always lucky.

Wife had one night stand